Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Now That the Polls Are Closed...

Well congratulations! You've done your civic duty ... you've voted in this year's NC Primary. Either you REALLY LOVE the democratic process, or you came out because you have strong feelings about Amendment 1. If you voted FOR Amendment 1, to you it signifies that you are willing to take a stand for the sanctity of marriage between one man and one woman. Well since you stood in line, put your name on the line, and filled in the circle, you made it official that you're willing to do what it takes to ensure that the institution of marriage be protected, come liberals, hell, or high water.

 I'm so glad you took a stand! Are you ready to stay standing? You see, marriage isn't something that is protected by a single law, or even a series of laws. It isn't kept sacred by just it's definition being included on the state constitution. It is kept sacred by those to whom it has been given, as a sacred trust from the One who gave it in the first place, and Who therefore asks that it be stewarded in a manner that is worthy of His Name. So here are 5 tangible things you can do to do EVEN MORE for marriage than simply voting.

1) Drop the "D" Word
The divorce rate is as high in the church as it is anywhere else. The absolute first step toward safeguarding the institution of marriage is to stay married. It seems there is a plethora of acceptable reasons to get a divorce these days, and very few are grounds to actually proceed. This isn't a slam against those who have been divorced. It is a call to remember that the same Bible which identifies marriage as being between one man and one woman also vehemently states that marriage is a permanent covenant, and should only be abandoned as the exception and not the rule.

2) Keep it Clean 
I'm mostly talking to the menfolk reading this. Dude, seriously, drop the porn. It's a distortion of what sex is, it messes up your brain function, and ruins your ability to take joy in the things that make marriage awesome. You shouldn't want your wife to act like a pornstar, you should pray for pornstars to be loved as much as you love your wife. Addiction is a bear. Help is available.

3) Keep it Close
If you haven't yet realized that extra-marital affairs are a bigger threat to the institution and sanctity of marriage than homosexuality, you aren't paying attention. To seek sex outside of marriage is to vote "AGAINST" Marriage in the arena of everyday life, and people take notice. Don't just try to make your mark in an election year. Make your mark in all of your circles, showing that husbands and wives can, with grace and discipline, keep from straying.

4) Scrap the Tabloids
HOLLYWOOD (for the most part) HAS ABSOLUTELY NO CLUE WHAT MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE. I'm really sorry, but it's a valid claim ... why can Kim K get married, make a mockery of what marriage should be, and then get divorced only to do it all over again? Imagine you are a member of the gay community, wanting to be married, and watching that. Seem a bit inconsistent with our standard of marriage? I think so. $50 to the Congressman that first introduces a Kardashian Marriage Ban. Who cares which actress married which producer? Stop paying attention to the attention mongers.

5) Stand for Others
You are surrounded by friends and family that need help in their marriage. They need encouragement. They need a cheering section. They need someone to tell them they're wrong when they're wrong. Marriage does not exist in a vacuum, and isn't something that everyone should be expected to learn 100% by experience. If your marriage is successful, AWESOME. Share the wealth. Help other people be successful in their marriages. It doesn't take Dr. Phil to fix some issues. Some people simply need advice, and someone to point them in the right direction. If you really believe the Bible is the instruction manual on Marriage, whip out out more often than elections.

 I'm committed to each and every one of these things. My wife is also. If you voted FOR NC Amendment 1, shouldn't you?

6 comments:

  1. I appreciate your opinions Ryan. While I disagree and feel just as strongly on the opposite spectrum, I respect the fact you are so vigilant in your beliefs. I have spent many years not voicing opinions because I was fearful of people's reactions... never fully feeling confident in myself. It is a great thing to be able to stand on your own conviction. Thank you for being strong.

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    1. Sam, I can tell you wholeheartedly that I've appreciated your leadership, and in those times when you stand for what you believe, it's inspiring. You have a natural gift of leadership, and I look forward to the day when you feel 100% comfortable standing for your beliefs and 0% concerned about what people might think. Thanks for posting. I value your friendship, sir.

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  2. #1 says it all...

    If we simply remove the option of divorce from society it would unleash a series of events much like dominoes! Without divorce as a scapegoat couples would be forced to enter into marriage with more caution which would result in a greater level of dedication to one another.
    Divorce is just too easy!

    Putting aside religious beliefs or political viewpoints... If you remove divorce from the equation the result changes!!!

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  3. While I don't see scrapping divorce entirely as an option, I completely agree ... it's way too easy. Systemic Spousal abuse? Unapologetic sexual immorality? Those are grounds that I don't know many would oppose. But really, what the heck does irreconcilable differences even mean?

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  4. Great post Ryan. I completely disagree that we should have voted in Amendment 1, but I also completely AGREE with your 5 things we all should be doing.

    My life as a Christian should be an example for others, and my marriage should also be an example.

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  5. Great article Ryan. I completely agree, I believe that America has become numb to what divorce does to others, especially children. I grew up in a home with 2 parents but I remember them separating for a while and what it did to me. I think your 5 points should apply to any relationship that is serious, not just marriage. God showed us how committed He is to us, we should always reflect that in our marriage.

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